Divorced and moving out.....still hopeful

[NewB3]

I moved out. Things are going well for me. I've been doing some updating to the home and lots of cleaning and some small repairs. The kids love the house and yard. And I have made several plans and gone out with the guys several times. I am not looking for companionship or dates at this point.
I had my first visitation with S3 .5 & S 11 I week ago. When asked 3.5 came back midweek I ask him if he missed me. Of course he said no. I told him how much I missed him and that we were going to have fun. He asked if we were going to my house and Was excited about it. He then tells me that mommy had been sad and crying I asked why and he said because she misses daddy.


I didn't say much about it after that but it got me thinking I tend to notice the small things of how she make sure you go out of her way to say goodbye and say my name. She will have to make eye contact to do that.One instance was the time when asked 3.5 left for the weekend prior to him telling me that she cried. She starts putting him in her car, and then says to me that I can finish loading him up and say my goodbyes. She goes to her side of the car, get sand, and put on her seatbelt. I tell him goodbye. I'm about to close the door and she leans so far back between the seats with her seatbelt on that her head is almost in his lap she looks directly at me and says goodbye talk to you soon.
I do not call her I do not email her, or send her text messages. I called her last week to talk about some problems she asked me to help with with the mail. I handled it and got off the phone first. I knew she would call me back this week regarding Halloween. She did call and ask me if I was coming to pick up some more his things for my home. I told her that I would be by this evening and she said to give her a call and let her know when. We discussed her having a contract on her home I told her congratulations and that I was happy for her. I was quick to get off the phone. When discussing picking up his things I was not going to mention Halloween. If you look back at my previous post I had mentioned that maybe she could come with us trick-or-treating. She didn't comment or look at me when I mentioned that several weeks ago as if she didn't hear me. So when she was talking last night she said and what are your plans for Halloween? I told her that we were going to go downtown to the city trick-or-treat event and she said oh, well that sounds fun. However, since she asked I told her she is more than welcome to join us if you would like I left it at that. Her reply was yes, sure that sounds like a lot of fun. I've been watching a lot of coach Cory Wayne things on YouTube and I'm doing my best to make her come to me I just hope I'm doing the right things. I just don't agree with him saying that you should be very friendly to your ex call her babe and give her hugs and Trader Joe's like a girlfriend to keep you from getting put in the friend box. I am not ready to call her babe her but mom around her at this point but I am allowing her to move closer to me as I stand still. I'm doing dark the best that I can.