I've dropped the rope....

[Sotto]

Hi Theoden, thanks so much for your reply and your interest in my sitch. I'm sorry that things didn't work out for you and wish you happiness going forwards.

I initially left our family home to stay with my parents for a bit after BD. I was born in the house where they still live, and I felt safe there. Safe was a word that came up a lot for me in the very early stages. I didn't feel safe any longer in our family home. I don't mean physically safe, but emotionally. I couldn't bear to stay there. I had moved to that area to join H before we married. And although I have made friends there, I just wanted to be back here with my folks for a bit.

It has also meant that SS and H can use the house at weekends. H works away during the week. Looking back, I wouldn't want to have stayed in the house and disrupted SS at weekends. But in all honesty that wasn't uppermost in my mind at the time I made the decision. It was just survival mode really.

Thanks for your kind comments too. Whether H sees me as the better option in the longer term, who knows. The OW certainly seems to have plenty of appeal ATM!

Toots :-)