My DB coach does believe the M can be saved, but it will definitely take a lot of work. I have been in individual counseling for a few years, just started therapy for OCD (my OCD bothered my wife a bit) and voluntarily joined an abuse intervention life skills program. I am also working with a lawyer for visitation and custody.

Yesterday afternoon, I ran into her father. We had a good chat. He told me my wife still loves me. He also told me how the night before she came over to his house to show him a therapy treatment that she and I could try for emotional damage during our childhood. He said he thinks we could see a counselor to see if we're ready for reconciliation

And then, last night, I found out my brother's girlfriend texted my wife. I had no idea and my brother's girlfriend later apologized and said she wasn't sure why she did it. But my wife told her that she's been crying at night and throughout the day and is taking it day by day.

I am definitely working on myself because I know our marriage can't succeed if I keep doing what I've done in the past. I've been working on my walk with God, along with the OCD therapy, counseling, and abuse intervention program.

Based on my wife still loving me, going to her parents' to talk about therapy for her and me for past emotional damage, and her crying, do you think there is hope that she has not completely checked out of the marriage yet and that there's a chance of reconciliation?

Last edited by Cristy; 10/30/14 04:09 PM. Reason: per forum agreement, do not mention other seminars and/or intensives
Me: 29 W: 29
S: 7 S: 4
M: 8
BD 10/15/14 (Order of Protection)
D filed 10/14
Letting God change my life. Doing the hard work to be the H my W always needed and to be the father my children deserve.