Sometimes it's hard to know how/where to draw the line.
But it's not our responsibility to manage their uncomfortable feelings. Part of them learning and growing is for them to take responsibility for how they deal with life.
It's like the culture of "educate yourself so you never offend anyone unintentionally". Everyone *should* know that this and that is offensive...
That's all well and good, and I think it is important to be sensitive to people and their needs. Learning proper terminology and educating yourself on people who are not like ourselves.
Does that mean that we need to take the heat if we "offend" someone with a well-meant comment or action?
At some point, the "offense" lies with them. We can't expect the world to cater to us and to prevent our feelings from getting hurt. As adults it's our job to educate others on how we would like to be treated.
Having that little interaction with your W is interesting, and it sounds as though you injected a little reality there.
Her feelings are her business.
You just keep carrying on being true to your values, being civil, considerate, personable, and reliable. That's all you really need to do.
The degree of "friendliness" is something that seems to vary in every sitch. You want to be warm, but not over-involved, and don't rescue her from the natural consequences of her actions. If you don't feel like being friendly, don't be. But don't be her "friend" either. Like they say around here, "Be friendly like a neighbor." That's ALL she gets from you.
Let LIFE teach her what you cannot.
If you don't want to be around her, then don't be. Hold your head high and move forward. She has her own decisions to make.
