Yeah, that's where I was going with my question. For example, demanding commitment to rebuild the marriage, and having her take ownership of mistakes, wrong-doings, etc.
And that's the difference between controlling behavior and healthy boundaries.
Controlling: "You need to stop the affair immediately!!"
Boundary: "If you continue with your affair, I will be forced to ... protect family funds, protect the children, eventually end the marriage, etc."
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
