I forgot to mention above that W joined me and our dog “B” in the master bed for B’s last night with us. This was the first time W and I shared the MB since BD. It was nice that she was able to do this, and I’m sure it comforted B too.
W’s b-day was yesterday and it went well. We both worked, and like usual I got home first. When she got home we enjoyed coffee together and she told me about her day... The meetings she went to, the chocolate cake her b-day buddy brought for the occasion, and the other gifts she received.
Then I gave her my gifts. My W has remained very frugal through all this, and although she really liked this fancy jacket, she wouldn’t buy it for herself because she said it was too expensive.
She was nothing but smiles when she pulled it out of the box.
I was not surprised that my little miss frugal was concerned that I didn't use her $20 off discount coupon. I did.
I even got the size right. (size is C, for CUTE!) She tried it on and commented about how soft it was, just like B's coat after a grooming. She also commented and joked about being afraid of getting it dirty. (color is ivory)
She thanked me and initiated a real, full front facing hug.
We then went out for dinner and W proudly wore her new jacket. Looked hot in it too. At dinner W mentioned her and I taking one of her company’s all inclusive fancy vacations together now that we no longer have to care for B. Over the last year B required special care, so neither one of us felt right about leaving her with anyone else.
Right before going to bed W came into the MB to thank me for the jacket and the entire night one more time. Gosh I love my girl.
Meanwhile, I’m still thinking…
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
Thanks UR. You are very kind and quite special yourself!
I cleaned and fired up our home furnace for the season last night. This was after many mornings and sometimes even afternoons with the home in the upper 50’s. Yeah, W and I are both cheapskates like that. It’s amazing how warm 62 feels now!
Coworkers planned to dress up for Halloween at my work today. I told some folks I was going to come dressed as a girl. I chickened out and took the easy path: Wore my TKD uniform and brought some martial arts weapons to show off with. Fun times. I really need to start doing more with this martial arts thing.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
FY I'm sorry to hear about your dog- I'm glad you and W had each other to lean on. I continue to be amazed with your patience level! It really is inspirational!
I'm starting to subscribe to the same type of DB- no eggshells, they get tiring.
Me 41 H 40 M 20 T 23 S 19,16, 8 D 13 BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015 Life is about daring greatly, about being in the arena- Brene Brown
FY Sorry to hear about your dog. Glad the gift was loved and accepted from your W, good job on getting something she wanted AND using the coupon. Excited to hear about W talking about vacations together.
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
Thank you daring and 2b for your condolences. B will be missed, but will live on in our memories.
Originally Posted By: daring
I continue to be amazed with your patience level! It really is inspirational!
Cali said I must have truckloads of the stuff in the driveway. What he doesn't know is they dumped a couple loads on top of me!
Originally Posted By: 2BHappy
Excited to hear about W talking about vacations together.
Now were talking about possibly hosting my entire family for Thanksgiving. Just like we did last year. My W is not bailing on the M anytime soon, if ever. I hope I don't!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
Great hosting whole family for Thanksgiving,,good food, good time, great memories!!!
I need some more patience..Im running OUT!!!
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
Patience you say? This one is for you, Happy. And me, and everyone else here who still believes their MLC spouse is worth standing for.
I heard it on a radio show tonight. The artist, Shirli McAllen of Leftover Cuties, said she wrote it for her husband when they were going though a rough patch. It's called Clarity .
Originally Posted By: Clarity
You lost your smile And it's nowhere to be found The light you had is now buried in the ground I search for it all over town And I found you beating yourself down
Oh babe, I wish you knew how beautiful you are I wish you'd see yourself only through my eyes Then you'll know in time this too shall pass And clarity will come to you at last
You lost your way And there are no signs around To guide you home To make you safe and sound I may take one thing, just one thing at a time Be kind to yourself, it's surely no crime
Oh babe, I wish you knew how beautiful you are I wish you'd see yourself only through my eyes Then you'll know time will yield the start And clarity will come to you at last
Until the day comes, I'll be right here by your side I'll try again and again to make you see You'll see you've got forever and a day To be anything, everything you want to be
Oh bae I wish you knew how beautiful you are I wish you'd see yourself only through my eyes Then you'll know time will heal your aching heart And clarity will come to you at last
Clarity will come to you at last Clarity will come to you at last.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
I Cried the first time I heard this song. It speaks volumes to all the LBS's here going through so much pain. Everyone here cares about and loves their MLC S or they wouldn't bother to even try. If only our WAS's could truly see just how much we do care about them, how much they are throwing away. They may be going through a "crisis", dealing with past pains but is the cost (paid more by those that love them most) really worth whatever they may gain? If only they could see that more loss, the loss of someone that truly loves them, can never bring anything near "happiness" or "joy"!