Thanks for your response theoden. I actually brought this up to my W very early on (a few weeks after the bomb).

I told her that I was afraid of losing her respect if I just stood by and did nothing, and that I didn't want to be a man who didn't fight for his W and family.

Her response was, "I would respect you more if you just let me be happy"

M: 15 years
BD: 6/25/14
EA/PA: starts 5/14/14
11/30/14 - A ends
5/15/15 - D is finalized.
11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!