These previous changes negatively affected her behavior so I stopped and withdrew
Would it be possible that you did not make these changes for yourself but for her? If so, she can smell it on you. Just imagine a colleague picking her wardrobe and topics of discussion just to please you. Wouldn't it be annoying rather than charming? We fall in love with people with integrity. The idea that they just try to guess what we want is off-putting. You have to become a great man that any woman would want so that she sees it and wants to be the one who has you.
Remember: she's not in love with you anymore, so now it's bizarro world. Every "I love you" will push her away. Act with her the way that you would like an acquaintance to act with you. Any seduction effort will push her away at this stage. Try to remember the last time you dumped a woman and how you felt around her. Let her be attracted to you first.
Originally Posted By: Hrdtims
I saw him last night at a soccer practice and was going to confront him (I am thinking of calling him today or tomorrow).
You seem to know that it's not a good idea. Don't say anything to him you wouldn't say in front of your wife because he will report the whole thing anyway. Hopefully, others will have more advice on this.
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
