I just got The Divorce Remedy and have already done one session with a Divorce Busting coach. I am totally committed to reconciliation because I finally realize how badly I've treated my wife whom I truly love, and I wish for the boys to grow up in a happy home with two loving parents.
Finish reading DR and follow through with your coaching sessions. Did the DB coach feel your M could be saved? I bet so, but not without a lot of work. Besides the DB sessions, I would strongly recommend you find a good therapist and get into an anger management program. The court may order you to do so, IDK. You probably need to find a lawyer to consult about your rights as a father.
It sounds as if both of you have a lot of issues that need to be resolved. With or without her, you need help with your own deep seated problems. You can start immediately by taking action to get help for yourself. In the meantime, I suggest you do nothing to agitate her. Stay away and make no contact. Get a lawyer to help you.
Save yourself, first.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
