Raliced - Climbing Without a Rope

[Shakspr]

rppfl...you made me laugh. I know you meant what you said, no more, no less. Something about the phrasing had me chuckling.

I think it is because we are here. We are DB'g. We are trying to grow. However, the feelings, often justified, of being wronged, of being treated unfairly seep through in unusual ways.

I am thankful that my W didn't get ugly. She just wanted out. She wasn't in an open affair or neglectful of her children. I can hate her decisions. I won't hate her.

rali, take what you can from this experience. Even now, when things seem to be spiraling, you can DB. Or simply observe. You will learn things that you can use in the future. I can't remember if you are open to reconciliation post-D, but even if all you can do is be present and listen in your H's presence, do it.

Talk to more than one attorney before you settle on one. If you have the power to change venue, do it. Your intuition on this seems very strong to me. I experienced something similar, and if we could have moved my W's custody case out of her XH's county, we would have done so. (He was a former sheriff's deputy.)