Shall hate be fairer lodged than gentle love?

[Shakspr]

Thanks, all. Like most of us, I typically don't air more dirty laundry than I feel I need to. These days I feel like Paul Harvey..."and that's the rest of the story..."

labug, thanks for the support, again. Your words gave me a compass - I already have the map. I'm getting stronger and I am done just throwing up my hands. The answer is love. The answer is roll up my sleeves. The answer is do what must be done to the best of my ability. I am fighting not only for my marriage, but for my very family. If I fail, it will be because I am in the grave.

I only wish D21 would use her medic/EMT training as a springboard. I encouraged her to do so when she dropped out of college, but have since backed off. She does best when she figures things out for herself.

Nitty, I moved D21 out of my home the weekend before my W moved out. That was a relief. Whether or not she can go on affording her apt is on her. The other children were also complaining about her openly to me and W. It's not just my own distorted "parent of adult children" lens that views D21 this way.

Today is going to be a good day. I can make that happen. 7 hours, 45 minutes until I see my children. YEAH!!!