Shall hate be fairer lodged than gentle love?

[Shakspr]

This is the D who was born after my W was assaulted. I adopted her at age 9.

She has been the source of much strife, and it is very difficult to hear what she has to say without having an emotional response. She simply makes people uncomfortable because she constantly seethes. When that much negativity oozes out of someone, the validity of their statements doesn't hold a lot of credence.

Her accusations that we abused her and didn't get her the help she needs is true from her POV. She was not physically abused as a child. My wife's parenting style can sometimes be oppressive. I was sometimes drawn into that because I felt stuck between choosing to agree with my W or simply ignore the problems (I know, there are other options.)

Additionally, while she says we didn't get her the help she needs for her depression... well, 1.5 years of counseling and she only got worse. I know, many have been in therapy for years. I did the best that I could and there is a limit to my financial resources. We loved her and supported her more than she is able to recognize. It saddens me tremendously that she feels the way she does.

So, I will attempt to hear her out, validate as much as I can, and chart a path forward.

I won't let my ego get in the way. Just because I'm tired of doing the heavy lifting doesn't mean the job is done.