Some of Starsky's and Theoden's posts really struck a chord too - about the state of mind a WS needs to be in for true reconciliation to happen. My H seems miles away from that.
I'm not sure what gets a person to be in the right state of mind to really reconcile. Some say it's time. I thought so and I was wrong. Others think there's nothing like throwing them out of the house, and giving them an ultimatum and filing for divorce that gets them in the right state of mind quickly to reconcile.
The hope of DB-ing is that our GAL's make you the more attractive option. Perhaps.
I think in your situation, your husband didn't have a ton of complaints about you. It's mostly about his own unhappiness. I think he'll see you are the better option whatever means you choose.
