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[Mozza]

Why aren't we more angry?

I told my therapist that I was concerned about my wife's health and safety. He replied "Instead of being concerned, why aren't you angry at her?"

I realized he was right and spent most of yesterday being angry at her.

- She left me without giving me a chance.
- She doesn't care about the kids' emotions.
- She's been mean to me or at least inconsiderate.
- She seems to be putting herself at risk with medication and alcohol.
- She's doing it all on her parent's dime: appliances, apartment, furniture, new clothes. (I'm angry at them too)
- She wants to live her untarnished dreams regardless of realism or consequences.

Don't get me wrong, she also has reasons for being angry at me. But dealing with my own anger in a healthy way is something I need to learn through this process and acknowledging that I'm not just sad and longing for her, but also angry at her can be part of the therapeutic effect. I know I had a good day yesterday, with less sadness than usual. I also saw things more clearly and realized that I didn't want her back at all costs.

I recommend a day of acknowledging your anger to all of you!