I would love to text H to say to him that he is escalating everything because he is avoiding dealing with finances. I would love to try to reason with H to just negotiate a seperation agreement so he will have freedom and space.
It seems as if the majority of stories on these boards do not result in reconciling the M. Many have hopeful and happy endings but they don't seem to involve a return to being a loving, traditional couple. Especially those that are like my sitch - H moved out of state, OW, extreme avoidance, etc.
I am practicing detachment but right now it feels as if I have to take a hatchet to our old life to do that. H came in and dropped the bomb. Now I must clear away all the debris to have a clean slate and build again without him. That is detachment - we can try to dress it up behind psychobabble but it is truly a solo endeavor.
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
