Daring, IF you are D before Christmas,, you need to decide what is best for you! How will you feel spending Christmas with your H or his family?

Like your H gets a D, but still get to have "family"time with you....NOT fair right now...IF D happens and LATER you want to spend family time when its "safe" for you, when your feelings for your H are truly like a friend or family member and it works for the kids,,,then YES but this year with the way things are now,,, DO what is is BEST for you!

If the D is not final before then, but papers have been served,,same thing almost..

What do you want to do? Don't make the choice based on your M to your H or even what is the best for the kids at this point. Make this choice about if you want to spend the holidays with your H and his family...

I just want the choice to be about YOU and what you feel comfortable with.

My recent example:
My H had a close aunt pass, he and his family expects me to attend funeral, but my H is not going does not want to take off work, so I'm not going, not driving 8 hours to a funeral of my H close aunt, becuase him and his family expect me to. I told them if H goes I will come, if not I'm not. I made that choice not based on saving my M, but on how I felt, a 180 for me normally I would go because He wanted me to.

Last edited by 2BHappy; 10/29/14 11:49 AM.
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015)
H 51 (ring off 7/2013)
M 2007 T 1996
S 14
July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son
Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW