MLC? Let it Be.

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Thanks Wet. I write for a living, but not that kind of writing! Maybe I just needed a creative outlet. Heh heh.

Anyway, back on the freakin' rollercoaster today, big time. So when H was here last Thursday (as described), he mentioned an e-mail he had sent me, but that I had not seen. Couldn't find it in my in-box. I decided to look around in my spam folder - and lo and behold, there it was, dated last Wednesday, the day before we talked. It described, in detail, what he wanted out of our 'asset division'. He used words he'd never use, like 'flatware' (?!). Ohhhkaaay. Seems to me he had some type of template he followed. Anyway, I was shocked to read it all, since he was here the very next day and didn't mention ANY of those details - and still hasn't. In the meantime, found out him and OW still going strong.

So, at this point, he clearly thinks (from the e-mail) that we can divide things up without any sticking points. There are 2 huge red flags in the e-mail that he MUST be aware of: he says he'll keep his pension, and there is no mention of spousal support. This will certainly not fly with me - we have been married for 21 years and I am entitled to both.

Now, I know most of you are not attorneys, but if anyone can chime in here, I'd be most grateful. I have not yet responded to the e-mail, and he is still under the impression that I never got it. After seeing it, I have climbed to the top of the fence, and I am starting to tip toward D. SO tired of all of it. So the question is...should I just wait and see what happens next? It's been almost a week since he sent it. I assume he'll send it again (as he said he would), and then probably tell me to look for it. Should I print it out and take it to my attorney and prepare a response, before going to a mediator?? Mind you, he has not set up any appointment nor retained the mediator yet.

That e-mail is pretty detailed, and obviously he has thought things through. I have a plan in my head (in case it came to this), just have not shared any of it with him. Well, so much for the peace and quiet from last night!!! All he!! just broke loose. I keep trying to tell myself, believe none of what he says and only half of what he does...I just keep praying. Today I prayed for a clear sign of what to do next. And not 2 hours later I found the e-mail.

Oh, and something arrived in the mail yesterday: a brochure for a local ski resort that (I know) H and OW went to last winter. And guess what? It was addressed to HER. WTF?! This just makes it easier for me to move toward D. Fasten your seat belts - it's going to be a bumpy ride.

As always, thanks for everyone's support here. Wish we could meet in person. How do you guys set that up? It would help so much to talk to someone 'live', who is going through this crap...