Do I walk away from WAW? (2)

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Well, crash course in boundary setting? One of my best friends from 1000 miles away is passing thru town tonight and staying for the night, just for a few hours really. I let W know this morning. She knows he's pretty filled in on the sitch (she also loves him, he's my tightest bud and the kind of guy everyone loves to be with), so I knew this would be awkward. I honestly thought she would just leave for the night, though I'd never suggest it. When I got home from work, she asked me if she thought she should stay and see him. I told her it was up to her. "But doesn't he hate me?" "W, nobody hates you." "But he knows about what's going on right?" I removed myself from the conversation. About a half hour later, I said "I want nothing more than for us all to be able to hang out. But the fact that we can't is not because of me." W looked confused, "what do you mean?" "The reason you don't feel comfortable with him is not because of what Ive talked with him about. It's because of your decision." She nodded. "And when you make me feel like I am responsible for you feeling bad or awkward, it hurts my feelings, and makes me feel like the bad guy." She nodded. Then she said "I just don't like anyone ever thinking bad of me." I wanted to say "then don't do bad things" but I just said "I understand that."

Boundary set?

Also, when I got home I asked her if she heard back from S6s teacher, she said no response yet. I said "the only thing I can think of is that he said something to her." W looked utterly incredulous. "Why would he say anything? What would he say?" She acted like I'd just told her the sky was orange. Later on, she said she heard back from the teacher, and that the letter had simply been put in his mailbox by mistake (??? This still seems really weird to me) She gave me an I told you so look, and I said "what was that for" and she said "maybe he told her" in a mocking tone, imitating me from earlier. I let it drop. I have no idea how to confront her complete denial on this.

Well friend will be here soon and I'll have an evenings respite.