Hi everyone, I thought I would bring up something that may cause you to think I am crazy. But perhaps some of you out there can relate.

I believe there is a spiritual bond between two people when they are together. The longer together the stronger the bond.

So I was recently at a chicken wing restaurant with my s13. And the female servers were not provocatively dressed, but they all wore tight tops. So s13 was tired and almost sleeping in his seat, and I started looking at the numerous young women in the restaurant. And I was having inappropriate thoughts, and ALOT of these inappropriate thoughts.

Please trust me, this has never happened before. I do not gawk at women, and I always keep a proper decorum when I am out. But that night, I looked at each server and my thoughts were out of control.

Perhaps this is a rationalization, but I don't think so. I think I tapped into my separated W's spirit, and something provocative was going on. My theory: I had inappropriate thoughts about the female servers at this restaurant because my W was involved in a sexual situation at the same time.

Sometimes I feel depressed, when there is no real reason for it. And when I pray and ask for a God to place a wall between my W and I and the depression always leaves. Anecdotal evidence? Of course, it is. But there may be something more going on in the spiritual realm than we realize.

Anyone have any similar experiences?


Me-54 yrs; W: 50 yrs
4 kids- D: 22,20,19; S:15
"Trial" Divorce: 04/14 - 6/14
Separated: 06/2013- divorced 08/2016

“The strongest of all warriors are these two — Time and Patience.” War and Peace