It seems to me that W is unwilling to let go, forgive and move forward. Based on what you report here, W has a looong memory and holds grudges. That is not a recipe for healing nor trying to find a way out of hopelessness.
I don't think your W is there at all...or even close to it. Not by a long shot. She clearly holds on to a ton of resentments that she is unable and/or unwilling to let go. Her scorecard is definitely a lot longer than Santa's list of good boys and girls.
Originally Posted By: Devaste
That being said, identifying the issue is big for her, I'm going to check into different treatments so I can ask her about them.
In reading that ^^ quote set off alarms in my head for it comes across as you being the "Daddy" and holding her hand. I would suggest that you back off and let W figure this out for herself. Time for you step back and allow W to handle things on her own since this HAS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with the children.
It is all up to W how badly she wants treatment and how motivated she is in seeking help.
Another thing that rubs me the wrong way is how W presented information to you as in "well, this isn't my fault for having OM! Look...it is all in there. So I am not responsible for my choices." That did not sit well with me from my perch...I don't know about you, Dev.
It sounded to me as if W is absolving herself of the responsibility for having an A!! Not cool.
