Yeah, the affairs/divorce correlate pretty strongly for WAS and WAH. I wonder if "no affair" correlates more strongly to separation. Just curious, as I know finding these things out would require more time and resources than I have (maybe I should pique the curiosity of the Freakonomics guys.)
I will mindread BigMac a little...men don't typically have an affair to find a new life mate. They do it to escape or "get away" with something. We have a bent toward naughtiness.
It seems, however, that many WAS do think they've found the grass to be greener with OM. And that "this time" things will be different.
Men in MLC, it seems, sometimes just leave to try something new - and that isn't always an OW.
Women sometimes leave because they are simply too hurt by their husbands to stay - and that hurt is emotional more often than it is physical.
Bottom line, affairs are a symptom. And I now know that they are a symptom of unhappiness caused by 1) codependency, 2) lack of boundaries, and 3) expecting someone else to provide personal fulfillment and happiness. In no particular order.
Last edited by Shakspr; 10/28/1410:11 PM.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
