Honestly? I think I need to sit down with myself and have an authentic conversation with me. Maybe I am putting too much into him and his needs at this time and not thinking of taking care of mine. I say he is scared but maybe I am scared of trying to raise the bar and being rejected. And I shouldn't be.

I think the conversation I had with him today may be a good starting point. If he IS committed to the family and does not want me to be with other men and has agreed that he will not engage in affairs of any sort, then what does that mean about us as a married couple? Where do we go from there?

Yes, I see how it might be time to raise this higher and start acknowledging my needs and wants well.

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home