My therapist tells me that eventually the fog will wear off and he will be disappointed and start to see reality and think back to how good our R was...
Possibly, but then what? String you along another 7 years, only to run for the hills as soon as he smells true commitment?
I think this man may have issues that are beyond the scope of this forum, Zimmy. I know you have a lot of years invested here, but sometimes you just have to cut your losses. This to me doesn't sound like a man of quality, and you're NOT going to be able to "fix" him!