Ultimately I dont understand what that means. How do I set and enforce boundaries while not acting and focusing on me? Ive been inactive for close to 2 months now.
How ??
First off, what boundaries do you NEED to set ???
Why do you need to set them ??
Are you setting them because you are hurt ??
Or are you setting them to punish her ??
Are you setting them to fix anything about your relationship ??
Are you setting them so that she will "see" how you have changed ???
WHY are you setting them ???
And BTW, I am NOT against healthy boundaries. I'm just against boundaries that are manipulative....
