Ok. Well yeah, I have days where I think about the letter and days where I think its a terrible idea. Obviously I'm all over the place from day to day, in my postings here, but im trying to maintain consistency at home.
Ive been focusing on my life and my actions. Its hard to just live a life completely without her, as shes in and out all of the time. I'm struggling with where to apply boundaries.
basically i have no idea what to do aside from waking up every day, doing the work i have to do, providing for the kids and enjoying time with them, hopefully getting a little time to myself, and going to bed. maybe thats en-ough for now.
Well 1foot....
You are 3 months post bomb date, and still pretty fresh at DBing.
So I would imagine that a LOT of your decisions are emotionally based. And that will not help you when you interact....
Anything that you write, will just come across as pursuing, and pleading for another chance. Not attractive to anyone...
So yeah...
Take some time for your emotions to settle down, and you can act, rather than to REact...
Find out who you are, and be that...just for you
And please read about healthy boundaries, so that you can set the ones that need to be set.
And I'm pretty sure that enforcing them is the most important part of a boundary.
And from what I see, you aren't ready for that just yet....
Boundaries aren't set to "punish" her, they are set to protect yourself....
