I don't know if I am following you but when I read your post it made me think that h will do nothing unless i do something first . Am I getting you?
I like that thought Starsky. i don't know what to do though
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home