What to do with my Picnic now?

[bustingout]

I don't know if I would call it piecing. He has said he wants to come back. He wants to be a part of this family again. We talk about moving back into together permanently ( h left this country two years ago and now he comes back and forth). We are planning the holidays together and we have travelled as a family. We have been invited out together and we have invited people over to the house together. We have gone to a movie alone and we spend some evenings together watching TV.

The relationship is for the most part light and easy. He is 'present' . He wants to be here. He talks with me about work.

We haven't had a lot of convo about us except what I have mentioned and part of that convo has included me stating that he has a lot of work to do on himself to figure his stuff out. Or else he will just bolt again. I am pretty certain I have stated my boundaries succinctly and consistenly and they are heard and respected. We are building trust.

He is slow. I see someone scared and finding his way. He has a lot of trust issues. It's like he expects me to be mad and I'm simply not. I think this adds to his guilt and he has not yet dealt with that- at least openly with me.

But to answer your question I have stayed away from calling it piecing. I have understood that piecing comes later if at all. He has not said he is working on the marriage per we yet his actions show he is working on coming back. I see the final step to piecing as not yet taken just yet.