STBX filed in his home county and they automatically appointed a mediator (appt is in 3 weeks).
I have no idea if we can discuss amicably or not (we are dark with each other and our kid exchanges are brief). I want to see how close we are on stuff before the mediation appt - because if we are far apart then I will petition to move to my county. He's a deputy sheriff, his OW is a parole officer and I just don't trust that I would get a fair hearing (even with a mediator) in that county . For all I know, they both know the mediator.
He already indicated in his divorce filing that I could have all the property - and I am proposing that he pay significantly less than he is now (but more than the court would order). I do want him to fund college accts for the girls.
The main difference is probably custody. I want full physical custody with visitation and he marked joint custody. The amt of time appears to be the same - but I want a little more say particularly during the school week (they come back exhausted every time and its a 45 minute drive both ways - add that to extracurricular activities and it seems like a problem to me)
