What to do with my Picnic now?

[bustingout]

Hi Starsky! Well I think I did that before reading your suggestion. Awhile back - when this whole 'coming together' was starting, H kept taking about expectations. I would respond consistently saying I did not have any, basically, just let things develop as they may. He would respond by saying that THAT in itself was an expectation ... We went back and forth on this and finally he had said what he meant was that HE actually didn't have any expectations. What he meant ( and stated much to my surprise) was that if I wanted to see other men he was fine with that - see.. No expectations.

Needless to say I was very upset about this ( again- this was all about a month or so ago) and stayed by boundaries and my values on that. We came to the conclusion that if we want to give this a go then we should just let things be. He also agreed to no extra marital activities.


Anyways as weeks went by and , as I have posted, things seemed to be going smoothly. The comment he made though weighed more heavily on my mind and heart than I expected it would ( despite telling myself that it was a comment made in fear, trying to control, etc ). I felt un valued, unworthy.

Well today I finally brought it up with him. I very calmly told him what I felt, and he told me to please retract the comment that he made - he didn't mean it and he of course would not want me seeing or sleeping with other men. He does not want that. Didn't know why he said that.

So that kind of made me feel something positive. Is that raising the bar a bit?