He's on board with completing the refinance (I need this if I'm going to keep our house with one income)and was totally fine with recording the deed in my name only.
He "forgot" he had offered me a lump sum instead of monthly payments until D is final (not surprising since it looks like he already burned through that retirement fund).
We will meet next Wednesday to see if we can come to agreement about finances and kids - otherwise I will have to have case moved to my county.
Enough about Divorce. I've been reflecting the last couple of days and come to a couple of realizations.
1. One is about me: I had one live in boyfriend before STBX and a couple of year long relationships. All of these men (including STBX) have very strong mothers and some sort of strained relationship with their fathers. I guess this can't be coincidence- I need to explore why I am attracted to these types.
2. The other is about STBX. When we lived in Iowa, I didn't particularly like it there, I missed my family and for a while I had an extremely stressful job along with two small children. I went through a miserable period of a couple months (Which is probably when the marital discord really revved up)when D3 was 4 months old. Then one day, at work I just decided I would rather be happy and I was able to shake it off and focus on enjoying the good stuff in my life. Honestly, my husband seems to lack the capacity to do this. This changes nothing - I guess it just really reinforces the notion that he is on his own journey over which I have no control.
