What are your efforts? I'm sure Starsky can help you tweak them. There's always hope, and it's never too late to try something new.
It's one thing to pave a smooth road home, but eventually the wayward spouse needs to own up to things and really re-commit to the marriage. Even Michelle Weiner Davis in her chapter on Infidelity in the DR says that the cheater needs to bend-over backwards at some point to rebuild trust. If they balk at no-contact, or remorse, or talking about the affair, or giving details it's not a good sign. Starsky's point is well taken:
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To me, it's all about how does each marriage partner respond -- to themselves, to their family and to their spouse -- in times of marital and life crises. Unless and until BOTH of you learn to respond to them in a mature, committed, less-destructive manner and not in the "if-it-feels-good-do-it" mantra of most of today's Western marriages . . . your marriage only stands about a 10-20% chance, in my humble opinion.
