Gogofo - no longer piecing 2nd BD

[gogofo]

Here is the wife's list. She said she was just free writing, not purposely trying to make Cons list longer. Some issues had started to be remedied but as she said we had some triggers that had her revert back a couple months to a lot of her older feelings from when we first separated.

I do not see anything that would be a deal breaker to me. Her want list and my want list are very similar and would help us work through a lot of the cons on our lists.

PROS
kids/family
stable
talk/conversation
trying
knows me (kinda)
safe
know him (kinda)
no divorce stigma
not alone
still care
had good times too

CONS
money issues
intimacy issues
past 10 years
projects
no consistency
trust issues
home town forever
love my own house
don't know if I can live with him
can I forgive all?
miss family & friends
so angry & sad
last name back
everything a battle
10 months apart
I know I can move on
hate splitting holidays
could move someday

WANT
equal input, output, shared
romance
fun
socialness
freedom
space
dream
not be alone
not be controlled
my wants, likes, preferences valued
to be in love, feel love
not compromise on all - I want to win a few