And Zues - I agree which is why I have tried not to bring it up to H since our last issue of ex boss texting him and him not telling me. Beyond that it hadn't been brought up because I realize this is something I have to deal with.
Trust me, I was convinced H was never turning around... I saw so many other posters with positives, my situation really had no positives. I was am still some days in shock that I'm here. It's been a roller coaster for sure. But as I wrote in my card to H yesterday - there is no other person id rather share it with.
I don't want to come off as I'm ungrateful or not happy. I am. But here I can be honest about anything. Not that I am not honest with H but let's be real he doesn't want to hear the same thing over and over.
As far as changes H has made... I see some but not many. We can have a doscussion better instead of him walking out like before if he didn't like what we were talking about. This is big. We really never had any huge issues except for financial disagreements. That was really the only thing we've disagreed on. Everything was joint our pay went into joint and we both spent whatever we wanted out of our joint account. That's not the case anymore. I have to protect myself. So we are separate. We split bills 50/50. This is working thus far but last week was my last day at my second job so I'm a little nervous because I forget what I make with just my one job lol.
The other change H has made is to be home more. But he is slipping a little and staying late some nights. But this is better than it was as he was working all the time.
