H's MLC #5

[woundedfool]

Today it seems like my feelings are "leaving" or probably I'm having to hold things in and deaden my feelings and its starting to feel real, like if H left today I would feel relief in some ways for me.

Don't hold them in! What are you using as an outlet to "vent"? (aside from here).

what example are we showing him

You are showing him you love him unconditionally.
You are showing him you enjoy his interests.
You are showing him that happiness is not dependent on how other interact with you.
You are showing him marriage is not a just a ceremony where you may or may not honor your commitment.
You are showing him that marriage can be work, and that while in the short term it could be *easier* to turn tail and run, it is important to put in the work for the long term.