Kat: Did he have to stay on meds after getting his spleen out? I think you HAVE to bite your tongue. Fake it til you make it. Things said now can damage your R with him and your grandchild for the rest of your life. Be supportive while you let them figure it out. I got married at 20 (by choice - I was not pregnant). I made some mistakes but I also made a lot of good choices. They can do this!
