EA then PA with her ex

[Anaru]

trouble for W is any scenario for her is not great outcome -
- ending it with OM = no more cake & ego strokes from OM and buckling down to hard work with me (and admitting that her construct of making me the bad guy for "the last 10 years" was a big lie to justify her emotions)
- trying to stay friends w OM = Has use-by date until OM finds new girlfriend and dumps my W or two times her and I stay detached or move forward and separate (economic impact for all of us, incl sons), social impact for her as it becomes known she cheated on me.
- leaves me for OM - she will lose her family as our boys will certainly not go with her. OM lives over just the border in other country (Europe!) and has 3 young kids of his own.

For clarity "cake" references are not literally about baked goods (duh!) but about having her cake and eating it i.e. me as H and OM