Should I wait and see, or move to file first?

[blndsid]

Reasons to file:
-She has shown no signs of working on the marriage or that she wants to end what she has with OM1.
-Confronting the A has only led to more hostility/spite/anger and her going further underground to try and hide it better, not let it go.
-Never admitted to the A, but tells me it's over after each confrontation.
-Has said she 'developed feelings for him'.
-She has mentioned wanting trial separation and some days feels like D is needed.
-The day after last confrontation/denial/break up (where I make clear I refuse to live in an open marriage) she goes out to bar, texts om1 and om2 ad nausium. Possibly met up with om2.
-Later said she was sending the most vile, horrible text messages she could in the hopes I was reading them and that they would hurt me.
-Getting number from OM2 at wedding, while I was there.
-With snooping ended no telling what number of OM she's on
-Went thru all sorts of gymnastics to suggest OM1 was not on her flights to and from her conference. He was.
-She had sex that had potential to cause negative health affects to me as she continued relations w/me at the same time.
-GoG proposal, not typical of former W.
-She works with OM1, and has said she has no intention of leaving job (unless caught and fired of course). So, there is NO WAY to have or enforce a no contact boundary.

. . .to name a few.