Dawgy, you have to cut her loose from your life. I know it's hard to do and seems so counterintuitive. But believe me, it will give you a different perspective. You have to stop focusing on her. Focus on yourself. Work on improving yourself. Like Starsky said to me just the other day, there are 3.4 billion women in the world and there's bound to be many who would truly appreciate all you have to offer.
You have to let your W find her way. Pursuing her will drive her away for sure. Stop any pursuit. Just be yourself at your best.
It's like trying to feed a chipmunk. You have to stay very still and be patient. That's the only way there will be a possibility that they will even approach you.
Take another run at detachment. I know it's hard. God, I know. I struggle with it every day.
We're in the same boat here, all of us on this site. Sure there are different levels of despair, but there's an ebb and flow with that as well. You were doing very well a while back. Now you're going through a rough patch. It'll get better again soon. Just hang in there and work on yourself. Try reading the Tao Te Ching. It's something I read almost daily to pull me back to the center. To give me perspective. It really helps.


M: 59 W: 53
M: 9 yrs
T: 14 yrs
No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine)
W moved out 11/18/2013
D-Day 12/14/2013
W moved back home 12/1/2014