Hi Gwen! Sorry I haven't been around much... I have been feeling badly about that.
I just have to say that I think you are doing amazingly well. I do not think for a second that what you want to do is to be separated from your h. I also respect the fact that you are doing what you need to do to not let yourself be taken advantage of or taken to the cleaners.
Quite frankly, a person in mlc does not have good reasoning skills, from what I can see. They don't think about their actions and the consequences of their actions.
In a way, you could be protecting him, too! I was told early on here to protect myself and my kids. I have also read several times that you need to make sure you are legally set or at least know what is going on. There is not clear sign which tells us what will ultimately happen to our s, our m, or ourselves. So, protect yourself and don't feel badly about it. When it's said and done, where do you want to stand? It is not just about your r. It is about you too. If he never came back any you watched him take or destroy everything around you, do you feel like you would have done the right thing by standing by letting it happen? Doubt it.
Good for you, Gwen. You are strong, and hopefully your h will realize this and see what he is missing.
