I'm no vet, Little, but for me the answer is time. The last month has been a turning point for me. I've finally figured out how to move myself forward without moving on (never thought that combination was possible early on). For me that has required a combination of moving to a new apartment, yoga/mindfulness, reading Passionate Marriage (and learning about differentiation) and a genuine commitment to GAL.
You'll get there.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014