Yesterday, I went to a company event for about 5 hours during the day. It was food, football, billiards, and good conversations. My W took the kids to the zoo, followed by a visit to her cousin (the one who knows our sitch). She sent me some photos throughout the day of the kids at the zoo. I responded with simple phrases -- "very nice!", "looks like fun", etc.
I was home first. I did laundry, went grocery shopping, exercised. She came home afterwards very cold to me. Didn't say a word and barely acknowledged my presence. I could easily have let my mind wander and try to take guesses as to the reasons why. But I simply accepted it as par for the course.
My FIL said to me the other day, "You don't want her to be happy all the time, because that means she is happy in her new life (with the OM, etc.). You actually want to see her upset at times, because that means her life is not as rosy as she may have thought it would be after she engaged in the A, decided to leave you, etc."
I knew she was on edge, and the smallest thing may set her off. It did just that around 9:00 PM, when she declared that she's going to go downstairs to watch a little TV and drink coffee -- totally dismissing the fact that she needed to get our 3yo daughter to sleep. I had to work early in the morning and told her about an hour ago that I'm turning in. My son was already asleep. She may have realized this as I reminded her that our daughter needs to be put to bed. As soon as I said that, she snapped back at me and said:
"I'm going downstairs to get my coffee. Is that OK with you?!"
Ah yes, good times.
W is taking the kids to her company's halloween costume day (where employees bring their kids to work, etc).
I'm happy that she is at least making an effort to spend time with the kids.
M: 15 years BD: 6/25/14 EA/PA: starts 5/14/14 11/30/14 - A ends 5/15/15 - D is finalized. 11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!
