I just had a really hard convo with W. She was crying. She is suffering panic attacks about finances. Her electricity will be turned off on Thursday. She knows I've been laid up for surgery, but she asks when can I pay her the child support. I told her I will pay her directly on Wednesday. I try and give her supportive words, but I mostly just listened.
Then W said she has to move forward with the divorce so she can get something from me. She says it would be so easy for me to make a lot of money. She feels like she should get more because she has lost all of her inheritance from her parents.
Backstory, her parents were well off, and used to give us substantial cash Christmas gifts. Sometimes, we used the money to catch up on our mortgage. Sometimes it was used to help W buy things like photography equipment, our first exotic cat that was eventually used for her cat breeding business, etc. Her parents apparently no longer provide the Christmas gifts, and so W thinks that there will be little given when they eventually pass away (they are elderly and in poor health).
I tell W its probably not the best time to spend money on her divorce attorney, and she laughs and agrees. Having two households is draining both of us, and we have also heard from d18 who is in need of rent help. I am a veteran of dealing with financial stress, and for most of the years of our m, I protected W from having to deal with this kind of stuff. But now she has to deal with it on her own. I hate seeing this.
