I don't know. I guess I can say you're welcome if he took the time to acknowledge something I did.
I'm struggling so much right now with letting go. And since I'm not feeling quite ready to be friendly with no expectations, I'm erring on the side of unfriendly.
One year. He's had enough time to see my changes and at least be able to say "I don't want this to happen. But I need more time".
If he still can't even bring himself to open up a tiny bit after all this time, I feel fairly confident I've done everything I can do. My MIL told me that one of the issues in her M was that my FIL was "emotionally unavailable". I see that in my H too. My primary 'LL is words of affection/affirmation. I grew up in a household that lacked that. I can no longer accept being in a marriage without that, or with someone unwilling to work hard on giving that to me even if it doesn't come naturally to him.
I've been without him a whole year, and my life is pretty good. That says a lot.
