Moving towards mediation, need to stop limbo

[shodan]

Theoden

Thank you for the feedback. I agree that my approach is not standard. I was very direct with my W and did say that I am not going to do limbo. While I don't want to D, if she cannot commit to working on our M, then I have no other choice but to go through with the divorce mediation process.

I also believe that the A is over, for the most part. She is not planning to travel this week, but does need to be in NYC next week. That will have been four weeks since she was last in NYC, and that time four weeks ago was for one night.

My belief is that my W wants to see more consistent change before she takes the risk of jumping back into the M. She has brought up a lot of issues of which I knew nothing about. She confided that she spoke with an attorney two years ago about divorce but never went through with it.

I have continued to force a decision. I told her that we need closure of some sort. If she wants to D, I will not stop it but at least we can move on with our lives.

what is she afraid of losing...she has said that she is afraid of losing me and our family. in fact, yesterday she said that her biggest fear is that I move on, meet someone else and continue to do the good things that I have been doing lately. but she also admitted that she fears recommitting to the M and that I go back to my old ways.