So, now that I had a chance to answer Wonka, some things have been happening on my M sitch over the last week.

Saturday was my W's birthday. On Friday I picked my D14 up from school after she texted asking for a ride home. I decided to give my W a birthday card since that is what I would do for a "friend" and I felt like I should. I found a really good card that had the Buddha that gave (funny) advice when you pushed a button. On the inside it said something about "finding enlightenment" on your birthday, something she actually could really benefit doing! So I signed it from myself and the one dog that stayed with me when she left. Nothing "mussy" or anything. I left it for her when I dropped off my D14 Friday. Also that afternoon I texted her when I saw a really good deal on something at the grocery that I knew she needed. She texted back that she would be sure to get it and thanked me.

On Saturday morning I got a text from my W. It said "Thanks for the card! Very funny. It was thoughtful of you to think of me :)".
I texted back "You will always be important and cared for by me. Have a great birthday!". I'm not sure if that was a good response but sent it without really thinking about it.

Since, she has texted me several times. It's been about things she needed like asking me to bring some Halloween stuff that's stored at my place when I picked up D14 and some questions about help she needed putting together a project with D14 for school but the tone of the texts has been nicer and in the past I don't think she would have even texted about the project. She has avoided asking for almost anything, especially help with anything. I don't think this is some great event or huge change in her attitude about our M or anything like that but I'm hoping that maybe she will at least start to be more able to have at least a decent co-parenting type relationship moving forward. I'm starting to think that she thinks that I'm "angry" at her and that is why I've gone "dark". I've noticed that when things have come up with D14 she seems to think that I'm upset with her when I'm not. Very defensive I guess is what I'm seeing.

Right now I don't have much time to think about my M as I'm trying to just remain afloat and not lose everything! Just wondered if I did and said the right thing. Not that it matters much now as it already has been said and done. Maybe for future reference.

Thanks everyone and it's good to be back. I'll be getting in touch with everyone when I have some time!