Thanks for your response. I apologize I replied so late. I have been extremely busy lately between work, church, studying, and trying to find a cheaper apartment to move into.
You have described my W without even knowing the rest of the story. I am impressed! I believe this is where experience kicks in. I will be posting the second story soon, but is a long, long story. So I am trying to keep it as short as possible.
Back to your post, you are right. Two days ago she came to take the dog and give it to her brother. We could not keep him due to the unavailability of taking good care of him (we work too hard and have little time for the dog). So she walks in my apt and gives me a hug. She then started to brag about a "singles party" she did at her place couple days ago. She said it was "wild". I still feel that sometimes I am talking to a high school girl. But as the conversation went on, you can easily figure out that it wasn't a "wild" party at all. It was just around 8 coworkers celebrating the UN Day.
She then noticed I was getting big (I am a skinny guy but I've been going to the gym for the past 3 months, and now Im 15 lbs heavier). Then she started saying that she doesn't even feel like we were married. She thinks is probably her coping mechanism (she went tru a horrible physical and emotional trauma as a child caused my her own parents). But, as the conversation went by, she started accusing me again for ruining everything. I had to stop her (I never did this before) and tell her that I am done listening to the same complaints over and over. It has been 4 months of our separation and she keeps bringing this up. I told her that I am willing to listen to her, but not to listen to things that she had repeated so many times in her past. But she kept talking and began to cry. She said she believed on us, on our future together. And that she put all the effort in this relationship. As a man, I get tired of all this situation when I dont get even a single acknowledgement. I also put a lot into this relationship. And when I start giving her examples on how much I also contributed in this relationship, she cuts me off saying "Alright, alright, fine..."
So we talked for like an hour and a half. Then she hugged me and said "I really love you, but not like before...I believe we should have been friends in the first place before becoming lovers..." Then she added "lets work on our friendship now." She was very emotional.
But then she asked me if I can help her pay her phone bill. We are sharing the same plan under my name, but she was paying her half. She said that since I am moving in with a roommate, now I will have extra money to help her with her bill. I told her that:
1. she makes almost double the amount that I make, plus commissions. 2. She decided to leave and erase me from her life for ever (she deleted me from FB, talked trash and lies about me to others, etc.) 3. We are not together anymore. 4. The reason why your phone bill is so high is because you wanted the iPhone 6 plus an iPad.
So we are separated, she is not going to help me repair our old apartment before I leave, she left a mess when she moved out, she told me shes not willing to help me at all, and on top of that you are looking for financial support from me? WTH girl!
Then she hugged me again before getting in her car. At this point she was crying a lot. I told her "you know my position, you know that I apologized to you and asked for forgiveness so many times. And I know you said you forgive me, but you did not want to fix anything. You moved out suddenly without even letting me know...But still I believe we can fix this together..." She didn't say anything and got in her car. I kissed her and left.
