I accept that he has some sort of relationship with her which I can not control. I also accept that he will lie and/or dodge accepting responsibility for the truth of this relationship and its consequences on our family.
I also accept that he is not going to change or become a more responsible or admirable person anytime soon.
I accept that he is not a person with whom a relationship would be either healthy or desirable right now.
None of these truths MUST harm me. They are no commentary on my desirability, on my quality, or my worthiness.
I can decide to walk away at any time because I have that power and right, regardless of his choices. I also have the power and right to remain standing for the marriage until I am done. I am not yet done and that's ok. I do not owe anyone any explanation for that choice.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
