Sweetie, you seem to think its not ok for you to regress sometimes and it so is. This doesnt happen in a straight line. You will go back and forth and up and around again. Until eventually you get to where you need to be.

Ok, so, here's what I want to say to you about seeing him and/or her. I think you are making it way bigger in your head. That's not to say that it wont sting some.

I want to tell you a story about my friend, TVS, from here. She was upset because she was going to see them at a work meeting.

I told her to walk in there with her head held high because she had absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. She did. It was ok.

You have done nothing wrong. They cant shine your shoes. So, you keep that in your head and walk with confidence.

Ok, so, here's what happened when I knew I was going to see my xh and her.

They were sitting at a table. I just so happened to have been looking fine wink. I walked in, looked them both in the eye said hello with at-ti-tude and kept right on walking. I was told that both of their mouths were hanging open a bit. LOL!

The thing of it is that they didnt matter. They had no worth. They couldnt shine a candle to me, S. I had nothing to hide, nothing to be ashamed of. Them, not so much.

Dont give them all this power. Dont allow them to change who you are and how you live your life.

Nothing will happen to you if you see him or her. Absolutely nothing. As far as I was concerned, they were the ones who should be uncomfortable, not me.

I know that you get upset about what happens with your daughter. And as parents, we want to protect them and make things better for them. But that isnt real life. We cant fix everything.

Your daughter seems to have it together. She sees who he is. And its best to let them forge whatever relationship they do, as long as you dont do anything to cause harm to it.

Mighty, this is tough stuff. You are doing wonderfully. It's ok to have days when it gets to you. You just dont want to live there. smile