Maybell, I'm sorry - I may have missed some nuance in your social media situation. You knew they were in contact before because of the Instagram account, correct? Has anything changed - or is it the fact that he openly friended her?
I'm sorry Maybell - I'm not sure if he's being clueless or just disrespectful. Everyone on these boards joined with the intention of saving their marriages - but so often you read a story and think - geesh what it is about this guy that makes such an awesome lady put up with so much?
And this is one of those moments.
BTW- I don't think your PMA wasn't real. A gutpunch is a gutpunch is a gutpunch.
You've got to stop that stinkin' thinkin'!!! Seriously. When it seems that all odds are stacked against you, then wham! Things change with a roll of the dice. Trust the DB process. Don't let the OW use your head space rent-free, honey.
I don't know why I would be willing to put up with this mess. I guess I'm hoping it will be like T0324 that being in the open will bring it too a head and a resolution sooner.
I have three amazing children whose world has been rocked. And will be rocked further by this unless it resolves. They deserve our best efforts. Eighteen years deserves our best efforts.
sigh. Wish me strength for when he brings the kids back in 45 minutes or so.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Wonka, I don't think it's the OW. It's that he openly friended her on FB knowing I'm there. He still lists me as his wife, for God's sake!!
Am I really stinkin' thinkin? Do they really change that quickly? It's hard to believe. Even having seen how things worked for Train and T and their sitches were way worse than mine.
I guess it can. I hope it does. I am tired of being blindsided like this.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15