Don't push.......period. If she is warming towards you, it won't take much to scare her off.
This is my opinion about most cases and what/how most LBH's should do b/c I think it is where a lot of guys mess up. They have it in their heads they can talk her into taking him back. If he says enough and convinces her that she really does love him and really does want to be with him......then she will surrender and once again he has conquered her. They ride off into the sunset and everything goes back to normal once again.
The truth is that the more he tries to change her mind, the more he hurts himself. Not only does it make him appear needy and insecure, but most WAW'S would feel very smothered and pressured by his persistence.
Instead of assuring her that she will always have your love, it would work better for you if she was a little concerned about it (at this particular point and time) b/c she knows she has hurt you really bad, and she knows you should find a woman who actually wanted to be with you. In other words, she should not take you for granted. And she will......as long as you persue her and proclaim your undying love all the time. Actually, a woman will think less of a man who they treat badly and he keeps running after her. I mean, would you respect someone like that? Neither will she.
So, don't try to change her mind. Don't try to convince her the M can be fixed or that you have changed or anything. If she wants to talk, then STFU and just listen. (This is not the time for you to talk.) Too many LBH'S are way too eager to give their opinions at the slightest chance. She will get scared to even approach the subject, knowing you will jump at the chance to talk.....talk....and talk. Or in other words, pressure......pressure......pressure.Stop trying to win her back. It makes a LBH unattractive to his WAW, b/c everything has shifted gears and the rules are different now.
Enjoy your life, be charming, and let her come find you and work to get you back again. Am I suggesting that you act cold, mean, distant, etc.? No, not at all. Just stop trying to have a R with someone who doesn't want you. Why would you want to have someone who doesn't love you? Don't you deserve to have a woman who loves you as much as you love her? That's all I'm saying. Just stop the pushing. Let her make up her own mind without your pressure, and let her pursue you!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
